October 2025 Update: I wrote this when I had a website named A Woman’s Freedom in Christ. I have folded all of that content into the website you are on now.
Is there a place for conservative biblical egalitarians right now? At one point a few months ago I decided the answer was a resounding no. I took down this website and redirected all of the links to one of my other websites.
Every time I tried to find a Christian egalitarian tribe online and joined various groups, I felt compelled to leave. Parts of my faith and beliefs I valued were mocked or derided, even in a Christian setting. It was clear that a relatively conservative Christian who believes the Bible would not fit in very well. I found the vitriol and anger too much to engage with and read all the time. I left and focused on other parts of my life rather than this little ministry.
There were two things that made me put this site back up.
Reasons for This Quiet Conservative Biblical Egalitarian Place
The first is that someone specifically wrote and said he was using the site for research and was disappointed that it disappeared.
The second was when a number of other conservative egalitarian Christians said it was unfortunate I took it down since there are relatively few places online for conservative Christian laymen and laywomen to go to read if they are researching this topic. Many (most?) of the Christian egalitarian groups and websites are heavily progressive with a strong focus on social justice. That is their choice, but many conservative Christians are not going to end up in a group like that. Like me, their search for truth is not driven by the culture and the trends du jour. It is driven by a desire to understand what God has to say on these topics. I started this journey twenty years ago and it has nothing to do with cultural trends. It has everything to do with following Christ.
An Egalitarian Place for Christians to Read and Ponder
My husband and I put the website back up a few weeks ago. We’ve been updating things and getting it ready for me to write again. I’ve noticed as I watch the incoming traffic that there are many people who come and stay a long time. They read many posts, they take many outgoing links, etc. They never say anything or leave a comment. But they are reading. Like me many years ago, I am guessing they are searching for answers to the questions they have about women in the body of Christ.
Those are especially the people this site exists for. For the women and men who are earnestly searching for the truth and need a quiet place to do so. For the women and men who want to honor Christ with the way they live their life, regardless of what others say or think. For the women and men who take the Bible seriously and have an intense desire to know the truth and then live it out in practical ways.
I don’t have all the answers to all the questions. (When it comes to this topic, no one does no matter how much they might insist that they do because it is just all so obvious.) But I hope I can point people to thought-provoking reading, raise good questions, and help people sort out their beliefs on these topics.
So the answer to the question is… Yes! There is a place online for conservative Biblical egalitarians and those who are searching for answers. I hope the Lord will give you wisdom and discernment as you search and read. We may end up drawing different conclusions, but we’re still brothers and sisters in Christ and I’m glad you are here!
Breaking Down the Incredibly Complex Egalitarian Christian Marriage
Hi there Sallie. I’ve been reading your blogs on and off for many years now, probably back to when you first started blogging and definitely before your daughter was born. Glad to see the site is back up! About a year ago I would have said I was a complementarian, but one day I read an article that made me realise that in practice my marriage is egalitarian (and very, very happy). It kind of rocked my world and has made me look into the issue more. Your writing has been helpful! Like you, it’s hard to find a place where I fit in as a conservative, so I thought I would leave a comment to let you know I appreciate what you do here 🙂
Hi Amy!
I recognize your email address, probably from comments in the past. I’m happy to hear about your continuing journey. I’d be fascinated to know which article resonated with you if you are willing to share!
Thank you for your words of encouragement!
Sallie
Thank you for putting the site back up! I would be one of those who read but don’t comment and it was a sad, sad day when I visited to found all your content had vanished.
I wish I had been one who sent you an email of encouragement…but I am so glad others did. You definitely have important things to contribute to the conversation on what it means to be a woman, redeemed by Christ Jesus and gifted by the Spirit to fulfill His purposes, while navigating conservative, complimentarian American Christianity.
Hi Tamara,
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave this comment! It was such a wonderful surprise to wake up to and did encourage me a great deal.
Blessings to you,
Sallie
Thank you for putting the site back up! I would be one of those who read but don’t comment and it was a sad, sad day when I visited to found all your content had vanished.
I wish I had been one who sent you an email of encouragement…but I am so glad others did. You definitely have important things to contribute to the conversation on what it means to be a woman, redeemed by Christ Jesus and gifted by the Spirit to fulfill His purposes, while navigating conservative, complimentarian American Christianity.
Hi Tamara,
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave this comment! It was such a wonderful surprise to wake up to and did encourage me a great deal.
Blessings to you,
Sallie
I have never posted a comment on a blog before. Here goes nothing!
I am not sure when you posted this but I just want to thank you so much for keeping this site up. My husband and I feel so alone being conservative egalitarians. We just don’t really know where we fit. We want to raise our children up in the truth of God’s Word. A big part of that is for them to understand how God views marriage and what a woman’s place and value is in marriage and in the body of Christ. I regularly pray that God will help us to find like minded believers to fellowship with and show our children that there are others who share our beliefs. Finding your site is definitely a great start. May God give you peace and new found joy today! You are such a blessing to us!
I have never posted a comment on a blog before. Here goes nothing!
I am not sure when you posted this but I just want to thank you so much for keeping this site up. My husband and I feel so alone being conservative egalitarians. We just don’t really know where we fit. We want to raise our children up in the truth of God’s Word. A big part of that is for them to understand how God views marriage and what a woman’s place and value is in marriage and in the body of Christ. I regularly pray that God will help us to find like minded believers to fellowship with and show our children that there are others who share our beliefs. Finding your site is definitely a great start. May God give you peace and new found joy today! You are such a blessing to us!
I often tell people that if it weren’t for my stand about women, I could probably be classified as a “fundamentalist.” I don’t think that there are people more conservative than I am even within that tradition.
I have found the same situation on line. Either the groups are supporting gay marriage, or abortion, or they sound like they hate men. I can’t stand those things.
The bigger problem for me is finding a church that I can fit into. Women’s issues are only part of this very complex pattern, as I have read and studied more than a lot of pastors, and I think I scare them. I am not afraid to speak my mind, and I think that scares other women.
We have been without a church for a very long time now. It isn’t right. But neither is needing Xanax on Sunday morning.
I often tell people that if it weren’t for my stand about women, I could probably be classified as a “fundamentalist.” I don’t think that there are people more conservative than I am even within that tradition.
I have found the same situation on line. Either the groups are supporting gay marriage, or abortion, or they sound like they hate men. I can’t stand those things.
The bigger problem for me is finding a church that I can fit into. Women’s issues are only part of this very complex pattern, as I have read and studied more than a lot of pastors, and I think I scare them. I am not afraid to speak my mind, and I think that scares other women.
We have been without a church for a very long time now. It isn’t right. But neither is needing Xanax on Sunday morning.
Cassandra,
Welcome! Yes, I so understand what you are saying about church. We have struggled with that for a long time. Not just because of the women’s issue, but other things as well. But the issue with how women are treated, spoken about, and their gifts ignored is very troubling.
I, too, have found that many men and pastors in some circles don’t know what to do with a woman who is able to clearly articulate her views, especially when it comes to theology and complicated topics in theology. The best thing for the body of Christ would be to welcome her gifts and wisdom, but that is rarely the case.